Depression has been a familiar and unwelcome companion through my 20s. I have had six unannounced visits over the past ten years, each visit lasting between one and six months.These excerpts from my journal will give you an idea of how I felt during these times: Nov 2003: “I don’t know […]
Author: Tim Chan
You’re looking for the wrong person to marry
After spending the last decade surrounded by people in their 20s I’ve discovered the topic that occupies the majority of their thoughts is relationships. They think about how to find the right person to marry and they wonder whether the person they are dating is their soul mate. Where did the […]
Why saying “marriage isn’t for you” is naive
Three days ago, Seth Adam Smith published a blog post entitled “Marriage Isn’t For You” that went viral (Seth says it has over four million views so far). His cleverly titled post explained that marriage isn’t about your own happiness, but about your spouse’s happiness. This is my response to […]
I’m jealous of my single friends
[ Tim ] I hate my friends — especially the ones who go to Hawaii and post half-naked photos of themselves lying on sunny beaches drinking pina coladas. I want to be in Hawaii too. Facebook should have an option for new parents to block out all the fun and […]
My Love-Hate Relationship with Family Vacations
When I lived in the same house as my parents and siblings, I wasn’t all that excited about family vacations. After all, I lived with these people. I saw them 7 days a week, 365 days a year. Why would I want to go on vacation with them too? What […]
Stop trying to cheer up your wife
If you’re a new boyfriend or husband, here is my advice to you: Stop trying to cheer up your girlfriend or wife. At least not all the time. I know this might not make sense to you right now, but trust me, it’ll be one of the best things you […]